The idea of writing a blog post on confidence and the amount of other posts on the internet about how to be confident is a little alarming. Why is it that confidence has become such a difficult thing that we have to write about it and give advice on how to be confident?! Shouldn’t we naturally be confident and love ourselves? Don’t we wish it was that easy…
I have never considered myself a 100% confident person but I would like to think that I have learnt how to be confident and learnt to love myself more than I was in my younger years.
A major impact on our confidence is this idea that girls have to be and look a certain way and we compare ourselves to other girls around us. The next time you are in a public place, you may realize that the first things you judge about other people are either their faults and imperfections or what they have that you don’t. We carry out this judging routinely and it has become a natural thing. Wouldn’t it be great if we always saw the good in people and loved ourselves regardless of our own imperfections?
The media is no help. We are shown models and actors with makeup, photo shopped images, accentuating thinness and then we are expected to be confident within ourselves. No wonder we view our imperfections before our perfections, as we are constantly being presented false beauty within the media!
The advice that I routinely tell myself, is learn what makes you happy and what makes you feel good about yourself and once you identify what those things are, do them! Don’t listen to what other people say or what other people are wearing and achieving.
Understand that you are a different person, your own person and you have your own goals and thoughts that only you can understand. Try to create a mindset that puts yourself before anyone else and begin walking down the street or down your school’s corridor and stop comparing yourself to other people. The more you practice, the sooner it will become a habit!
No one knows you better than you know yourself, so if you stop loving and taking care of yourself for who you are, then who else will? Confidence is something we can gain. People can see when you are happy in your own skin and it reflects onto your personality and will make you a great person to be around. Be the first to take a stand for yourself.